Why bother with people who we find offensive or difficult to be around?

We could simply not bother with people who we find offensive or difficult for us to be around. Some times, this option can feel quite honest and natural. When we are deciding what to do, we need to consider what and who we want to be. We need to ask ourselves; “Are we maintaining the status quo or building a world that we would prefer to live in?” What kind of a world do you want to build? This dilemma is at its core, a question of understanding your life purpose and how you want to work with affinity (the relationships with people), that you will need to fulfill that purpose.

One thing is certain, that taking the time to Find a positive way to interact with these ‘difficult’ people, will grow you and teach you to get you through any difficult moment that you find yourself in. You are after all having the encounter for a reason. Are you sure that you are having it so you can choose to walk away?

It is also important not to confuse the issue. Are you sure that the situation is not fraught because of your own identity issues, with your shame issues, value issues? Are you acting out your own feelings of having to not express certain parts of yourself for fear of anticipated negative responses? It is important, if you want to move forward socially and personally, to love and make room within yourself, for those parts of yourself that you reject in others, even if you choose not to express those parts in your interactions. Have compassion for yourself and others. Taking time to find a way to interact passively with ‘these people’ will be mirrored within you as a greater integration of the parts of you that are naturally at odds with one another.

Look at any given situation and feel if it would serve you to put effort into resolution or whether it can only cause harm and choose from that place.

Today, I will make an effort to find mutual ground with people. Today I will not miss opportunities to love myself and integrate parts of myself that I have previously turned my back on or shamed and rejected.
Today I will make effort because I am worth it.

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