I attend a self-development group on a Saturday Morning with Dora Dias and mid way through last year the question of what each of us contributes to the group came up and we looked at the roles we tend to favour within a group context be it socially, work related or familial.
At a Tao evening on Thursday 6th of Jan, a wise man made the following comment that really got me understanding what I can bring to a group, any group, anywhere.
He said: There is a great importance in getting people to want to see you again. It is about building affinity and if you are doing it without tactics, it is your surest indicator that you are on your life's path.
People-not-wanting-to-be-around-us is a clear sign, not that we are in anyway faulty or less than, but that we are hiding our true magnificence under a bushel.
Respect always has to do with being yourself.
Getting people to enjoy being around you is not about covering up the differences between you or about accentuating them.
It is about letting others be who they are, (really letting them) and then daring to risk showing them your talents and genuine interests.
Our only duty is to find out what really interests us and to let ourselves pursue it, to bear its fruit in our lives…. and then, we can openly bring those fruits to share with a group, at work or at play.
Can I dare to let myself believe that it is ok to want people to want to see me again,…..that it might actually be a need that helps me along the road of finding out what I truly want?
At a Tao evening on Thursday 6th of Jan, a wise man made the following comment that really got me understanding what I can bring to a group, any group, anywhere.
He said: There is a great importance in getting people to want to see you again. It is about building affinity and if you are doing it without tactics, it is your surest indicator that you are on your life's path.
People-not-wanting-to-be-around-us is a clear sign, not that we are in anyway faulty or less than, but that we are hiding our true magnificence under a bushel.
Respect always has to do with being yourself.
Getting people to enjoy being around you is not about covering up the differences between you or about accentuating them.
It is about letting others be who they are, (really letting them) and then daring to risk showing them your talents and genuine interests.
Our only duty is to find out what really interests us and to let ourselves pursue it, to bear its fruit in our lives…. and then, we can openly bring those fruits to share with a group, at work or at play.
Can I dare to let myself believe that it is ok to want people to want to see me again,…..that it might actually be a need that helps me along the road of finding out what I truly want?
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