Sometimes I feel like the most important thing that I have learned, the very hard way, and think it is the most important thing to teach people is how to set goals as a prerequisite to achieving them.
Goal setting is the most important thing.
It is the most important action a human being can perform.
How many of us realise the importance of goal setting? And then, how may of us do it consistently and as a matter of priority?
Why is setting goals so important?
I believe it is because as McKay and Fanning put it so clearly in their 2000 book, Self-Esteem, “Self-Esteem depends on two things:
1. Learning to think about yourself in healthy ways, - (This stops you covering up who you are) and
2. The ability to make things happen, to create your own life. – (Your actions with their results reveals you to yourself) " (McKay & Fanning, 2000. Italics; mine)
Self-esteem is the ingredient that makes: yourself worth being and your life worth doing.
Self-Esteem is the control setting that dictates how pleasant or unpleasant our experience of life is going to be. I want my self-esteem, – Ability to experience life as joyful, setting turned up as high as possible.
Goal setting is so important because it is integral to self esteem.
A wonderful chicken and egg scenario is set up between practicing feeling good about ourselves and setting and achieving goals. As we feel better about ourselves, it is easier to achieve our goals, first because it is easier to know what we want and secondly because our energy is not being used up in trying to manage pain. As we achieve our goals we feel better and better about ourselves. This in turn makes it easier to think about ourselves as innately valuable and leads to better goal setting. …and on and on in a happy upward spiral. If either one of the processes is blocked our self-esteem can only stagnate and because we are not achieving our goals, begin to decrease.
Today I will consider how effective I am at knowing what I want and setting meaningful achievable short and long term goals for myself.
Self-Esteem for Africa has a one day workshop entitled; What I need. It covers some key areas: Accurate Self-Assessment, Goal Setting
& Recognising Achievement
Visit http://www.selfesteemfa.co.za/ or call us on 073 971 1673
Goal setting is the most important thing.
It is the most important action a human being can perform.
How many of us realise the importance of goal setting? And then, how may of us do it consistently and as a matter of priority?
Why is setting goals so important?
I believe it is because as McKay and Fanning put it so clearly in their 2000 book, Self-Esteem, “Self-Esteem depends on two things:
1. Learning to think about yourself in healthy ways, - (This stops you covering up who you are) and
2. The ability to make things happen, to create your own life. – (Your actions with their results reveals you to yourself) " (McKay & Fanning, 2000. Italics; mine)
Self-esteem is the ingredient that makes: yourself worth being and your life worth doing.
Self-Esteem is the control setting that dictates how pleasant or unpleasant our experience of life is going to be. I want my self-esteem, – Ability to experience life as joyful, setting turned up as high as possible.
Goal setting is so important because it is integral to self esteem.
A wonderful chicken and egg scenario is set up between practicing feeling good about ourselves and setting and achieving goals. As we feel better about ourselves, it is easier to achieve our goals, first because it is easier to know what we want and secondly because our energy is not being used up in trying to manage pain. As we achieve our goals we feel better and better about ourselves. This in turn makes it easier to think about ourselves as innately valuable and leads to better goal setting. …and on and on in a happy upward spiral. If either one of the processes is blocked our self-esteem can only stagnate and because we are not achieving our goals, begin to decrease.
Today I will consider how effective I am at knowing what I want and setting meaningful achievable short and long term goals for myself.
Self-Esteem for Africa has a one day workshop entitled; What I need. It covers some key areas: Accurate Self-Assessment, Goal Setting
& Recognising Achievement
Visit http://www.selfesteemfa.co.za/ or call us on 073 971 1673
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